3 THINGS YOUR TRUST ISSUES WON’T LET YOU DO

 

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Our childhood set us up for trust issues in so many ways, all of us in different way too. Then adolescence came and all we had was our hormones to guide us, guaranteed fail. Adulthood came with the task of adulting and loving ourselves but by this time we were shredded. We can hardly piece ourselves together. Part of the reason why this is happening is because we have trust issues. Let’s go through this…

YOUR TRUST ISSUES WON’T LET YOU TAKE RISKS.

You may be thinking about romantic risks here but I’m talking business/career risks too. There is a mentality that has been planted in you, that you aren’t good enough. I don’t know who put it there, but it lives in you.

So now, you have these amazing ideas but you don’t trust yourself so you don’t jump. You look at other people and feel they could do a better job at it than you. As we speak you have given away so many of your ideas for free and someone is flourishing.

If that’s you, you need to realize that you are sabotaging yourself. If you can come up with the idea, how can implement it. You are good enough!

YOUR TRUST ISSUES WON’T LET YOU LOVE AND BE LOVED.

You have been burnt one too many times or you have watched a loved one go through it. The memories stick and replay in your mind every-time someone hints that they like you and want you in their life.

The moment they do, you run. You would rather be alone than try and allow anyone to love you, or at least try to love you. And at times, you like that very person so much but your mind plays out negative ‘what if’s, ‘ and you shut the door.

You are depriving yourself of love, from a social life, out of fear. I say break that wall down. Love and be loved, if it works or works, if it doesn’t break, feel, get back up and love again!

YOUR TRUST ISSUES WON’T LET YOU BE YOURSELF!

This already sounds ridiculous right? You are there defending yourself and thinking, ‘I have never!’ Well, I have news for you, you have. We all have and sometimes we do it without realizing that we are doing it.

We tell people we don’t like things that we actually like. We say we are who we are not. You have done it! And if you still are then, STOP IT! I know you don’t trust that people will take you as you are, so you study them well enough to be able to say you are who they would count as a friend.

You are only robbing yourself of a happier life. If you prefer beer to wine then say it and drink it with zero apology. If you fancy women over men, do it! Life is way too short to be acting! CIAO

I hope you enjoyed this article as much as I did❤. Feel free to visit and follow Ubu`s Blog on ubu.co.zw 

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He Heard You. He Answered You. But He Is Saying…

Raise your hand if you are certain that God is not answering your prayers✋🏾. But are you sure he has not answered?

2 weeks ago, God sent 2 people to share with me their struggles, how lowly they were in spirit and how they just wanted to throw in the towel. He sent them, not because I am better than them, but because I was in the same boat with them. I believe he sent them, so that He (GOD) would teach me something that I want to share with you. In that same week I stumbled on a motivational video by Steve Harvey that was so relatable to what was going on. He said, “God heard you the first time you prayed (asked, sought and knocked) in faith and he answered you right away but he never told you the delivery date of your answer. And not knowing the date of delivery messes us up.” I had more questions to ask God, after watching that video. I wanted to know why he would answer and not deliver, why he would make us wait for answers that we desperately needed. Again, I was not getting any answers to those questions and so I decided to shelve the thoughts. But, God works in mysterious ways, its only when I was busy planning for this week`s article (a different topic altogether) that he began to flood my mind with the answers for my questions. With the help of the Holy spirit, he brought to clarity and remembrance what I needed to know and do. So here it goes:

He Heard You. He Answered You. But He Is Saying:

  1. YOU ARE NOT READY – No-one wants to be told they aren’t ready. It is like an ego crusher to be told you aint ready for anything. I will give you an example, my siblings and I have drivers`licence. But out of the 3 of us, I am the only one not allowed to drive my parents` car alone there has to be someone in that car. My parents say that I am not yet ready to drive alone and the  first days it made me so mad. It’s not that I am a bad driver but I just do not have that ka that😅 yet which a great driver has to possess. And I have to be okay with it up until they say  I am ready. I trust my parents enough to know that they are doing it out of love and not favoritism. It is the same with our heavenly father, he knows you are not ready for that —— (fill in the blank) and you need to be okay with it. You are not ready because you  very stingy, you need to be a giver first before he can bless you with a million dollar business. Be willing to accept God`s you are not yet ready. It`s for your own good.
  2. IT IS NOT YET TIME – If Jesus Christ the Son of God, who was has the living word tattooed on his thigh [Revelations 19:16] admitted at the wedding of Cana in [John 2:4] by saying “mine hour (time) is not yet come” I am really not sure why you and I would not be okay with that. It’s not yet time of God, means he is still preparing you. He does not want to give it to you prematurely, for you to only loose it at the blink of any eye. Allow God to prepare YOU[the person he needs you to be when you receive the answers]
  3. YOU NEED TO FOLLOW MY INSTRUCTIONS – Most of our answers come with instructions🤦🤦‍. And most of us are not following these instructions, because they make us uncomfortable. Remember the rich young man in [Matthew 19:16-23], he asked Jesus what he needed to do in order to enter the Kingdon of God. And his answer was in neatly wrapped in instructions, “sell all that you have and give it to the poor” But the rich young man was greatly troubled because his instruction was tough. It is the same with us, God gives clear instructions, but because they look challenging we choose to ignore or disobey. But every time we cry our eyes out praying for that promise, we will always hear that soft instruction again and again. The date of delivery is sometimes is on you, the more you resist the instructions the more you delay your answer.
  4. IT IS NOT MY WILL – Jesus Christ cried in the Garden of Gethsemane [John 23:41-42], pleading with God that he would take away the cup. that was before him. But at the end of his prayer he still acknowledged that, ”thy will be done and not mine.” Even though he wanted to run away from it all as it was too much pain, he accepted the will of God. We pray amiss, because we are not praying the will of God and because we do not know the will of God we will always be  frustrated
  5. KEEP ON PRAYING[1 Thessalonians 5:17] “always keep on praying” Praying should not cease the moment we ask for what we want/ need. There are two things to note: Firstly God is not your Genie in Aladdin (sorry Mr Will Smith😹) who you go to when you only want to make wish. He is your Father, he wants to talk to you on a daily basis. He wants to be in on everything we are up to, in the good and bad he wants the communication line to be always active.PRAY! Secondly, remember the enemy came to steal, kill and destroy. He knows if you get your answer from God, he is doomed! So he fights your answer but when you are prayed up you have activated a host of angels that are warring on your behalf in the spiritual realm. So PRAYER is your fuel. You need proof, lets look at [Daniel 10:12-14]Then he said, “Don’t be afraid, Daniel. Since the first day you began to pray for understanding and to humble yourself before your God, your request has been heard in heaven. I have come in answer to your prayer. But for twenty-one days the spirit prince of the kingdom of Persia blocked my way. Then Michael, one of the archangels,came to help me, and I left him there with the spirit prince of the kingdom of Persia.Now I am here to explain what will happen to your people in the future, for this vision concerns a time yet to come.” We can’t be wanting answers and we are not putting in the work! (this one hit home for me!)

I pray and hope the above has made you wake up from the frustrations, depressions,stresses of life that we allow to haunt us. If you believe and know that you are a child of God, a VICTORIOUS LIFE is guaranteed.

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My 2019 Book Reviews: Part 1

The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.” – Dr. Seuss

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It is no secret that I am a book nerd. I have gone beyond reading books as a hobby or to while up time. I read books intentionally and with a purpose, cause I want to learn grow and become a better human being. Just as Dr Seuss quote says, I want to expose myself in situations I have never been in, places I have never be to through the eyes of of the writer. There is a quote that says, ‘Travelling is an antidote for ignorance‘, and I think the same goes for Reading

The past 4 months of 2019, I read in total 12 books (no-one is counting😂). However I do not have a specific number of books I want to read before the year ends. I find it as unnecessary pressure to do these 50 books reading challenge. Because at the end of the day you will read more books but have little understanding cause you were all about reaching the target number. My challenge instead and I have said this before in one of my articles, is to invest more in buying hard copies than eBooks. I need to build my library. 

Back to the actual purpose of this article. To be honest all the 12 books that I read were amazing, but out of the 12 only 6 hit the jackpot for me. So I am going to do a review on them and I hope this will encourage you to read them. Disclaimer: This is not a paid advertisement, but I am open for business😀!

  • The Subtle Art  of Not Giving A F*ck  by Mark Manson – Mr Manson, has his own unique way of viewing life which is profound. He brings you back to the reality of life even if its painful to hear. The wisdom nuggets he shares are definitely a counter-intuitive approach to living a good life. real-talk! 
  • Steal Like An Artist by Austin Kleon – This book challenges your creative and artistic side! Everyone has the ability to create, I explained this in detail in my previous article(you better go read it). The author, Austin shows us how to be creative in a world that looks as if everything has already been done. inspiring!
  • What To Do Before You Get Married By Tinashe Zinyemba  – In a world where you are constantly asked when are you going to get married? (all my single people stand up😂!). This is the book that you need close by, before you succumb to the pressure of rushing into marriage. Bible-anchored, this book brings to light the important issues that the society never tells us that we need to address in our single-hood. insightful!
  • The Kings That Didn`t Need This Queen -It’s not everyday that you hear people spill out their real life experiences for the whole world to know. And Nobuhle’s  book is one of the few raw gems that has opened up to tell it like it is. The true challenges people endure in relationships but never have the guts to talk about and get help. This book will make you laugh, cry, smile, get mad and last but not least leave you with important life lessons to learn from. worth-reading!
  • Beautiful by Cindy Martinusen –  This is a teen fiction book but carries important life lessons that even a 100 years old man can learn from. It has a “when life gives you lemons, make lemonade” story-line. But that`s not what caught my attention, it is its subtle message about GRATITUDE. Before lemons are thrown at you, are thankful for life as a whole including things that you might consider insignificant . Because the next moment you might not have them and that is only when you will realize their importance. In other words do NOT wait to know the value of something before you can appreciate it or be grateful for it.  beautiful!
  • The Man God Has For You by Stephan Labossiere  –  This is the first book I read at the beginning of the year. When I was stuck on the question God where is man😂?However the book did not answer my question, it didn`t even tell me what I wanted to hear. But it taught me what needed to be prioritized and not. This book will help you you get your principles right and encourage you to seek the face of God first so that he can show you the man he has for you. enlightening!

I hope this review was worth it. Let me know in the comment box😊

#GODBLESS

I AM A CREATIVE AND SO ARE YOU!

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I do not know what you make of my newly discovered quote but allow me to explain. I really wish I had known a long time ago some of the things I am only starting to learn now. Or maybe I  learnt it and my ignorant self took it for granted. But before I beat myself up, maybe this is actually the right time I needed to hear it all. I have never learnt more about creativity or being creative like I did in the past 3 months of this year. Thus I hope by the end of this article you will have an appreciation of  why I have called myself a creative. If to you this is nothing new I guess, I am here to preach to myself before you all. I am so excited with what I am about to share and I hope it awakens or nudges the CREATIVE in you!

At my church we have a theme for each month, that we receive teachings on in accordance to the word of God. So the month of February was themed CREATE and the profound wisdom filled teachings by Bishop Tudor Bismark, blew my mind off. I do not want to spoil anything for you, [link at the end]. He preached a massive revelation on that one verse we all learnt first in Sunday School, Genesis 1:1. I was like God you need to teach me more, I became so hungry for more knowledge I read more books on that topic, mediated more on that verse. As if that was enough, God sent me another teaching early March through a sermon on YouTube by Dr Matthew Stevenson III on the Power of Creativity and Innovation. Oh boy, I totally lost it  after this one. [link at the end].

All along I had been made to think that creativity is a gift for special people. Actually my lamest reason was you can only  be creative when you have the resources. And yet  the bible says; ‘In the beginning God ([a]Elohim) [b]created [by forming from nothing] the heavens and the earth.’ BOOM there is the revelation, you need NOTHING to create. Yes that is it. I can stop here and we can all start working. The unique plug is you, Psalms 82:6 says, You are [a]gods; Indeed, all of you are sons of the Most High. You have the DNA of God, you have been made like HIM, you also can CREATE. That is your right, own it like a pro.

So in the process of learning all this, I began to witness a wave of Creativity happening all around me. Something I had been ignorant of. I was seeing it all over the internet and the best past is , Creativity was happening right under my nose. I would like to shine a light on the 3 CREATIVE individuals that I personally know who have inspired me, the past 3 months. It is one thing to be inspired by people we see on the internet but it`s a different ballgame altogether when you witness real life individuals just like you with no lime light in their face, working this creativity game real hard because they have fully understood the concept.

  •  ThembiTerry the Blogger 👩🏾‍💻   – She is  a well renowned Zimbabwean Blogger. I had the privileged to be part of her 3 months female blog training program. One training I am truly grateful for. She is passionate about what she does, she is smart and she has that drive that says there is more keep pushing and break all the barriers. She was the first person to tell me that I am a creative and that I should own it. She opened me up to a whole new world of blogging  I had no idea of.
  • Rose the  Baker👩🏾‍🍳   – She is a  very good friend of mine and proud owner of The Sweet Life Cakery.  This young lady`s baking game is solid. I have told her so many times how I admire her work. Beyond just making mouth-watering delicious cakes, her creativity in those cake designs is insane. Ask her to make an out of this world  cake design and she will bring it to life.
  • Nyasha the Events Planner👩🏾‍💼 – also a very good friend and as of last month she is the proud owner of HappyRays Events. She is an amazing event planner. I still remember having a discussion with her as she shared with me her business idea. I was challenged and inspired, she gave me this advice, think outside the box, yes you write but discover other things that can be birthed from your writings. And she even spilled some interesting suggestions which by the way I am working on and I can’t share LOL!

I guess your next question after this is, “what can I create, that has not been created?” I have asked myself the same question before and the answer is YOU. Like I said you are the plug, your unique nature will bring the difference. Discover what you are good at and maximise on it and be willing to explore and expand your horizons. I am a blogger and I have created this content for you, if you google another blogger with the same article title our content is going to be different, we are not going to say or even sound the same. That is what is going to make the difference, your unique touch. It is the same everywhere be it the food or entertainment industry. Remember life isn’t a competition, we all have our own place in this world that we should reign in. I will leave you with this quote by Dr Matthew Stevenson III to challenge the CREATIVE in you: “Be adventurous, don’t play it safe, ask (pray to) God for a revelation of the right risks and do not allow fear to hold you back” 

 This CREATIVE  topic is so broad I am sure I am going to be back with more articles on it. Actually let me know in the comment box if  this article was helpful.

Links:

What is a Creativehttps://goinswriter.com/what-is-a-creative/

Dr Matthew Stevensonhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mU5wXUZIeYU

Bishop Tudor Bismarkhttps://www.facebook.com/TudorBismarkMinistries/videos/242346906719080/

Rose the  Baker – https://www.facebook.com/The-Sweet-Life-Cakery-305295973002006/

Nyasha the Events Planner – https://www.facebook.com/Happy-Rays-Events-2033112963391143/?ref=br_rs

ThembiTerry the Bloggerhttps://thembiterry.co.zw/

#youaretheUniquePlug🔌

#GODBLESS

 

 

 

Giving My Life To Jesus Christ: MY TESTIMONY (Part 2)

“Therefore, my dear friends, as you have always obeyed—not only in my presence, but now much more in my absence—continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose” Philippians 2:12

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The bible says that when you become born again you take the identity of Christ Jesus [I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me – GALATIANS 2:20], but that was not the case for me. I did not know who I was, I lived in fear of both God and my parents, on the outside I pretended to perfect by doing good. But on the inside I was a mess and was not a peace with myself. So I was just living life aimlessly, no-one was there to guide me in this new walk. The books I read, never meant anything, the scriptures were not clear, going to church was by default because it was a must. So years went by living as an “unsaved born again Christian” that was my little secret. If I anyone would try to witness to me, I would be quick to say “no, I am born again, You and I are in the same boat donchu worry about me, I am good!” It was ALL LIES.

The enemy had his hands right round my neck and made me swim in my own pool of iniquities (lies, lust, envy, jealous, doubt, hatred, anger, selfish-ambitions, depression, self- condemnation, judgmental thoughts). Just because people did not see it, I thought I was fine. But deep down, I always felt a strong conviction that I was wrong and that I needed to repent again. I still wanted to know this God but I just did not know how to. I only prayed when I wanted something from God. During high school I was an on&off  christian, I wanted the best of both worlds and thought I could maneuver my life through both.

I was trying to figure it all out. Sometimes I would hear these sermons and  have a strong conviction that this is me being preached here and would tell myself, ” yes I need to change” but when the Pastor would call out for re-dedication or a prayer of repentance (to be born again, again). My pride got the good of me cause I would tell myself “you got born again at 12, sit yourself down, you aint going anywhere, you are fine”. Little did I know it was the enemy whispering too me. Between my high school and varsity life a lot of deliverance happened in my life. A war I was not aware of was be fought on my behalf, the devil wanted me but GOD had claimed me already. 

‘I assure you and most solemnly say to you, everyone who practices sin habitually is a slave of sin.Now the slave does not remain in a household forever; the son [of the master] does remain forever.So if the Son makes you free, then you are unquestionably free.”                              – John 8:34-36

Early 2015 January, just after graduating the previous year, reality struck. I was jobless, no more friends to pretend life with, I discovered I had nothing and my life was so empty. That is when I made the CHOICE, I needed JESUS CHRIST. I needed him to sort my life once and for all. It all began with an intense 10 days of prayer and fasting, crying, pleading with God and re-dedicating my life to him. It was one of the best experiences of my life, I genuinely felt a new birth taking place and a new identity clothing me. I was becoming more aware of what I needed in my life, taking responsibility of my life with God as my everything. I got baptized through immersion that same year, another best day of my life. I began plugging into church programs, one particular program that changed my life was the NEW LIFE COVENANT CHURCH ESTHER`S ACADEMY. It was through this academy that I got the revelation that I am a writer one of my God-given gifts the devil never wanted me to know. And the  following year – 2016, is when I started my BLOG, one of the best decisions of my life.

The Christian walk is beyond amazing, there is PEACE, JOY and HOPE that is unexplainable. I will be honest with you, I am still work-in-progress, I am human, I am not perfect, I fall but I still get back up again by the Grace of God. And I do not regret this great CHOICE I made. I  LOVE GOD so much, he has been so faithful in my life( literally crying) when I did not deserve it, he poured  his mercies on me. He has surrounded me with an amazing support system, my family, my pastors, my prayer warrior friends and mind-blowing divine helpers. I know its only the beginning cause the best is yet to come.

That being said, it would be foolish of me to only want to enjoy this life alone. I want you, yes you reading this! If you have not given your life to Christ, to make the decision right now. If my testimony is relatable or maybe it encouraged you to take a step forward. Please by all means take the action, get to know this GOD and the best part let him just change your life for the best!  If you are ready, please with a loud excited voice, pray this prayer with me in faith:

THE BELIEVERS PRAYER

Lord Jesus Christ, I want to know you personally. Thank you for dying on the cross for my sins. I open the door of my life to you and ask you to come in as my Savior and Lord. Take control of my life. Thank you for forgiving my sins and giving me eternal life. Make me the kind of person you want me to be. AMEN

Congratulations to you, you have made the best decision ever. Being born again is a process, so you will need guidance every step of the way. Something I had to discover alone, lucky you, you are not going to be lonely on this journey. I ask of you to get plugged in a bible-believing church close to you or look for a pastor or an evangelist that can help you. I am here  to pray with you, just  comment below and I will holla back!

Thank you so much for reading❤

#GODBLESS

Giving My Life To Jesus Christ: MY TESTIMONY (Part 1)

For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believeth; to the Jew first, and also to the Greek.
Romans:1:16

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At the age of 12 I gave my life to Jesus Christ to be my Lord and Savior. Too young right? An Evangelist from my former church (UMC) was doing home visits where he was praying and sharing the word of God with both believers and non-believers. When he came to our house, my parents were not around so he was like I will just pray with you and go my way. But before he could pray he asked me this question, “are you born again?”,  And  in my head, I was like sir are you seriously asking me this question!tenor (1)

Chest pumped out, “Of-course I am born again!” I said. But he looked at me with that eye which says little one I don’t think you understand what I am talking about here. Then he  went on to explain to me that even though I had been raised in a  Christian family and  that we go to church every Sunday etc. That was not enough, I needed to make a personal decision to make Jesus Christ my Lord and Savior to accept in my heart and allow him to be in charge of my life. 

I recall being so scared, sweaty palms not sure what was about to happen. I was so nervous because I  was remembering the church crusades we attended. Whenever they would call out for non-believers to come forward for prayers, these people would straight up roll on the ground and manifest crazy demons. And I am like I am not about to manifest cause I equated being born again to exorcism. I  honestly thought, there was a demon in me ready to be cast out!

Now, seating on the urge of the sofa, the evangelist noticed my anxiety but he kept on talking. What he said kind of made sense but I still could not fully comprehend everything. I wasn’t going to refuse Jesus Christ that would be another sin. So we prayed I said the believers prayer and he gave me some books and bible scriptures to read. And he left.

So that was it, I didn’t manifest, I thought to myself that was so easy. I am a born again Christian now, yay. I still remember telling my dad what had happened, he was proud of me and gave me some more books to read and that was it.  There was no follow-up on me whether I was  keeping up with this new life. I had to figure it out on my own.

Figuring it out was when all hell broke loose……

Part 2 coming out tomorrow.

#GODBLESS

6 Things I Wish I Had Done In High School🤷🏾‍♀

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Dear Diary,

David Fyre said, “Never regret taking chances, even if you fall on your face. It’s better to know you tried and failed than to wonder the great “what if?” Well Mr Fyre you should have told me this 14 years ago, cause here I am wondering about the 6 things I wish I had done in High School:

  • Being A Prefect/ Head-girl

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Not everyone is born to be a leader but being African has taught me that nothing is impossible. All it takes is good rigging and campaigning skills and you are on your way to the top😅. Not that I wanted to use unscrupulous ways to become a prefect/ head-girl but I could have done something about it. I failed to even become an ablution prefect😂. If you know you know😉.

  • High School Romance

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I missed out on the purest and innocent high school love. Well what else could I have done since the fear of boys had been cast upon me from all corners of the world. Love letters were read and torn apart immediately. I would be so mad that I would have the energy to reply the protagonist and ask them never to write to me again. Poor me. Nowadays I see budding love😍all over in school uniforms and I am like. “oh man, I will never know how it feels like”

  • Being Naughty

I really could have done better when it came to being naughty. The least I could have done hacking the schools` computer and upping my grades especial that one term I failed dismally😎. But oh  no, I never even tried always wanted to be on the right side😇. Well mostly because I didn’t want to go on punishment or get beaten up. But being naughty is part of growing up and looking at my naughty colleagues they turned out  to be alright, even better than me. 

  • Being Sportsperson

 

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Just maybe by now I could have been tired of gold medals🥇 at the Olympics. I don’t know why I hated sports but that hatred cost me. Now I will never know that one sport I could have excelled in. I am not sure if I can start now cause my legs can hardly carry my body😂

  • Making Smart Decisions

I could have been a doctor👩🏾‍⚕ if only I had made smart choices when it came to my subject options. When the opportunity came at Form 3 to join the sciences class I let it pass right under my nose because of friends.  The exercise was simple the teacher said, if you want to be in the  sciences class go to my right and if you want to be in the commercial class go to my left. For a few minutes I was on the right side then I looked across and all my friends were there just looking at me with that look of disapproval. So I reluctantly made my way to the left side and waved goodbye to my dream job.💔

  • Having a Best Friend

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I think high school best-friends 👯‍♀are the best. Cause again the love is pure and adorable. You fight on silly things, share everything and got each other’s back. Statistics even say that the probability of high school bffs, being bffs forever is very high. https://pulptastic.com/17-reasons-high-school-best-friends-will-bffs-for-life/ . All the memories we could have made and the little secrets we could have shared, #bffgoalsdead😢.

What if…..

Yours Truly

Wishful Introvert.

I would like to know in the comment section some of the things you wish you had done in high school☺

#TAKECHANCES

#GODBLESS

 

5 Reasons Why I Love African Weddings

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GO BIG OR GO HOME No other race does big weddings, like the black race. Hold up! Maybe we are second after the Indians, did y​all see Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas`s wedding. It looked like they had just invited the whole of Mumbai City to the wedding. LOL! Back to my point, no-one is left out to the African weddings. Relatives plus their relatives and friends plus their friends. If you know, you know. It makes the day so memorable, to be surrounded by people who are excited about your big day and happy for you!

MUSIC&DANCE – Definitely my favorite part of the wedding. When it comes to rhythm, God poured it all into the African DNA. Everyone will be on the dance floor grooving  and there is nothing  like a boring song at an African wedding. The icing on the cake, is definitely the bridal team. This special group of people would have spent weeks rehearsing their dance routines and so ready to show them off on the big day! And if  you see people holding up their camera phone to record them, then you know they have nailed it on the dance floor!

FOOD – Unlike the actual White race weddings where they have different entrées that the guests can choose from. Most African weddings have that one signature entrée. No-one is not going to eat something different from the other person. ” he eh wena no🙅‍” (Trevor Noah voice😂). So if it’s a Zimbabwean wedding y’all know its going to be: rice, coleslaw salad, beef stew and roasted  chicken and  for a Nigerian wedding it will be the popular jollof rice. The funny part is. in as much as we eat this type of food at home, it always taste better at weddings!

CULTURE Even though we have adopted the western white wedding, we never forget our culture. Hats off  especially to the Nigerians and the South Africans, they always nail it when it comes to their traditional African weddings. Nothing is left out from the traditional dressing, dances and rituals, they do it all. And its priceless and beautiful to watch and celebrate!

DRESSING Hollywood`s red carpet got absolutely nothing on the African wedding guest outfits. Everyone goes out of their way to look their best for a wedding. I know this to be true, because half of my fancy outfits were bought for one main reason; so that I could wear them to a wedding [don`t judge me please💁‍].  We show up in our best outfits, cause we feel a wedding is a very special occasion, why ruin it with ugly clothes! Plus HELLO, lets not forget the main thing [selfies🤳🏾for the  #hashtag-wedding vibes should be on point]!

I hope you had good laugh at my 5 genuine reasons why I love African weddings. Next time when you are attending an African wedding be on the look out for these pointers.

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Stay Woke! Social Media Is Not Your Friend!

“It takes twenty years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it. If you think about that, you will do things differently.” – Warren Buffet

whatsapp image 2019-01-24 at 11.40.05[According to Joel Lee’s article, 12 Social Media Facts and Statistics You Should Know in 2016: One wrong social media post can ruin your life for good. Whether it’s an edgy tweet that gets taken out of context (and riles up an online mob against you) or a badly timed joke in poor taste (which lands you prison), one mistake could send your life spiraling in an unexpected direction.]

Everything nowadays is happening on social media. Social Media excites us and gets us into an impulsive disorder of posting irrelevant or unnecessary things. Whether you are a celebrity or not, just know that whatever you do on social media you are either building or destroying your reputation the one thing that SM feeds on. Yes we say people`s opinions of us should not matter as long as we are true to ourselves. I 100% AGREE! BUT, hey! They start to matter when you are not delivering what you stand for. You cannot say that you are humble and yet everything on your social media is preaching the gospel of pride! No-one will believe you. We need to think first before we  upload that picture on Instagram, send that post on Twitter or share that Facebook video. Ask yourself do I really have to? Will this post have a negative impact on me, my future, my kids, my wife, my business, my church etc. 

“A reputation once broken may possibly be repaired, but the world will always keep their eyes on the spot where the crack was.”JOSEPH HALL

Case Study: Kevin Hart one of my favorite comedians late last year announced on Instagram that he was going to host the 2019 Oscars, something that was on his vision board and very dear to him. Just the following day, he woke up to a nasty attack by the LGBT community that he wasn’t worth to host the Oscars cause he was homophobic. They pulled out a twitter post he made 10 years ago which he even apologized for back then. But they would not let him have it and the news spread like a veld fire over SM to the extent that he decided not to host the 2019 Oscars😢.

Let us not ruin our lives with something that we can CONTROL. Choose this day to say,  I know I have a very good opinion about this issue, but posting on Twitter wont change anything;  I took this gorgeous photo of myself that I know can make me  a cover girl  for Vogue magazine in no time but posting it on my Instagram is not the solution; or I have this amazing video, that will make me successful in no time but posting it on YouTube is not how I want to attain my fame and success. #STAYWOKE

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